What no one tells you about when having a homebirth over 30+
Two lines. Automatically you’re filled with a bunch of feelings. What if I can’t do this? Will my baby be alright because I’m over 30? Maybe, you were that person who had dreamed of giving birth since you were younger. You always hoped to have a family, and then time took over. You got a job doing something amazing (or maybe you started your own business), and it took a while to find a partner to start your family with. Now you’re pregnant but you’re older than you wanted to be. You wanted that home birth, the twinkly lights, the support of a midwife, and you’re like… welp – now what. All your dreams don’t have to be crushed. Midwives do support women over thirty with some stipulations. Most government registered midwives only support home births with a mother over thirty if they are healthy enough. They normally coin this term… low risk. This would be that you’d have to be at a certain BMI range, no pregnancy complications (like gestational diabetes), and no fetal issues. So you’re low risk then you’re golden you can get yourself a registered midwife in your area to assist your birth. Now let’s hypothetically say you weren’t low risk and say you had GBS or gestational diabetes. Now the midwife might assign your care to the hospital. If this is the case you’ll have to determine if it’s worth finding a midwife that can support you, or going unassisted. (There is the option of hospital birth, and with a doula and a partner that is on your team and will help stand up for you… this might be a very viable option still). There is the option of a traditional midwife – this is someone that can be tricky to find, since they won’t be working in their governments order you might have to do some searching, connect with doulas in the area who may know of someone. They have less rules, and go based on your overall health and belief that you are able to have a homebirth. Or unassisted. Now freebirth can be considered a very taboo subject. Some doulas are trained and told not to attend an unassisted birth. I’m a firm believer that you are entitled to your choice. As a doula I was trained to not be biased and support your choice of birth you want. If freebirth is an option for you – the LARGEST part that might scare new parents such as yourself, is the what if’s. In freebirth planning, studying is a big part of your care now. There are courses such as this one (that I highly recommend) that will give you a lot of the information you need. But don’t stop there, take a moment and continue your research by reading books, some midwifery books like this Heart and Hands, I find has an in-depth knowledge that you would know some of the in’s and out’s of labor. With unassisted birth you’ll want to make sure both you and your partner have a plan in place, that there might be something you can’t handle and that you will need to transfer to hospital for a true emergency. Recognizing those signs with a detailed plan can be helpful for all present at your birth. Regardless of how you choose to birth, support is the number one key. Even with a homebirth. If that means mom, and your sister can be there too, perfect. Labor can be long, and the more hands to hold you up can make it just a little bit easier.
5 Things All Dads Need to Know During Pregnancy
5 Things to Note During Pregnancy || Dad Edition || I see you dad-to-be! This is a new experience for you both, and you’re going through things that you may not even quite understand. Don’t worry, although there are a lot of big things happening you are making a difference just by trying to learn how you can better help your partner. I believe that you need just as much support as the mother. Obviously, these are just a few things to help you get through the next nine months. Using these tips can help you make the pregnancy go through with a bit more ease. Did you know having sex won’t harm the baby? To this day it’s quite a common question that men still have today. It is also the punchline to a few jokes on TV.NCT took a much more in-depth look into the protection your baby gets and answers quite a few common questions around having sex when your partner is expecting. Just know that it’s completely safe, and everything will be fine. Just trust your partner and go with the flow. PRO TIP – In the first couple months the sex drive might be quite low, but by the second trimester that picks up. You probably don’t want to criticize her appearance! This might seem like common knowledge, but at times a joke that would have made her giggle, or have her understanding you’re just teasing, now might come off as a bear poking a hornet’s nest. Her body is changing a lot so it’s likely she is feeling insecure. This is the time to lift her up instead of tear her down. Whoops – what was I doing? Pregnancy brain is real. I’m not kidding, you would think that since she has two brains inside her right now that wouldn’t be the case. She will lose things or forget things, and you might be hearing the story about aunt Joan quite a few times. It might go away after birth or there are chances it can continue. There is another edition called mom brain. (Fun fact brain fog occurs during postpartum and even in menopause.) Her hormones are going through a lot of big changes Seeing the fact that your partner is growing another human body, hormones are shifting and changing its layout. You’ll see them being more hormonal than usual. Quick to sadness, or a temper that they never had. Lots of changes – not just on the outside but on the inside too. Did you know you can fill your schedule up with prenatals? Having prenatal visits with a doctor, the doula, midwife, and so forth are common. We want you there. The prenatals I have with dad present are so special. Don’t be shy and join them, of course I know work calls – but you don’t want to miss out unless you really have to. Those are just five things you should know when it comes to pregnancy and how you can be there for her. What are things you feel you need more understanding with, feel free to contact me and I can always try to help answer your questions too.
Your age shouldn’t stop you from having a baby
Don’t let your age stop you from having a baby! I said what I said. Advanced maternal age isn’t what it used to be. It’s not the dirty thing, it’s actually a very popular theme with working women, we’ve seen an increase in mothers over 35+. My background My mother was 36 when she had me. Even back in 2000, they considered her a geriatric mother. That term is so offensive in my opinion. There is nothing wrong with having a child over 35. But to continue my story, my mother continued to have five more pregnancies after me. One resulted in a miscarriage (the usual 1 in 4 statistic) and then her final child was born at the age of 42. Having older parents never really bothered me, the only time I suffered any type of problem was when other people would make a comment – asking if I was having fun with grandma… inserts rolling eye emoji The facts Advanced Maternal age is still discussed as a serious problem but over the past four decades there has been a dramatic increase of pregnancy over the age of 35. Rebecca Dekker has a PhD and is an RN. She has a wonderful handout to answer some serious questions in regard to advanced maternal age. According to ACOG – Older women are more likely to miscarry or have a stillbirth. They have a greater chance of developing gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, and of delivering a baby who is very small. Then there can be problems with labor, resulting in a higher chance of cesarean birth. And while pregnancy increases a woman’s risk of developing blood clots (deep vein thrombosis), this risk is higher for older moms. It’s important to understand, however, that age-related concerns rise gradually, not all at once at age 35. This was made by Rebecca Dekker. The downfalls The biggest problem that advanced maternal age comes down to is the struggle to conceive naturally. I’ve worked with multiple clients as birth support where age was one of the biggest issues with conception.(It’s why having a fertility doula on your side can be beneficial to support you through the ups and downs of trying to conceive) There is a decline in eggs as well as a higher risk in miscarriage. There is also a higher risk of pregnancy complications such as down syndrome, higher risk of stillbirth, preeclampsia, among others. The wrap up… Don’t let this discourage you from having a child ( or hell even children). Your body was designed to have children, even if it’s a bit harder you can do this. If this is something you want, find a supportive team that is in your court! They want to see you succeed and want to make your dreams come true. Having a baby is a blessing regardless of your age. This I do know. Of course, there will always be naysayers. Trust yourself.
Hypnobirthing Basics for First Time Parents
If you’re looking to have a natural birth. Regardless at home or in the hospital practicing the art of hypnobirthing might be something you’d want to consider. When I discuss this as an option with the families that I work with, my very first question that I’m always asked is what the hell is that? So in this blog, I’m going to take a deep dive into what hypnobirthing is and how it can assist you. What does hypnobirthing mean? hyp·no·birth·ing/ˈhipnōˌbərTHiNG/ nouna method of managing pain and anxiety during childbirth, involving various therapeutic relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing and visualization.”the hypnobirthing worked all through my labor” How can hypnobirthing help you? Hypnobirthing teaches you the physiology of birth, how your body is designed to grow and birth a baby comfortably and efficiently. It also teaches you how your mind triggers the production of certain hormones during pregnancy, labor and birth, which can either disrupt the natural flow of your physiology or help it work more efficiently. This teaches you how to stay calm during pregnancy. One of the biggest problems we sit with in our generation is that we don’t know what birth truly is. In a non-biased way birth has become a very medical event. It’s something in my business that I’ve been trying to bring awareness to. Because… Hypnobirthing brings back birth to its primal basics and it teaches you how capable the system you already have in place really is. Now when I talk about hypnobirthing I’m always met with much confusion. I remember the first time I brought it up with my mom… she had me back in the year 2000, she was in her late 30s when she had me. So every time I talk about something she’s always fascinated by how new she thinks it is when I try to explain that it was there before me. When I first told her about it she automatically thought it was about hypnotism and she thought that if I became a coach I would end up hypnotizing people during labor. At least that’s my understanding of how that conversation went. But in all reality it’s through the use of positive affirmations and a sound understanding of the process that you’ll learn how important hypnobirthing can be. It enables you to clear any negative messages you have surrounding birth. Is hypnobirthing right for you? Maybe at first glance you can’t even think of one negative thing around birth but your subconscious mind holds many things and with hypnobirthing it can reprogram your beliefs to create a calmness and confidence about the experience. Rather than gearing yourself up for trauma and disaster you are inadvertently taught to expect you will become excited and well equipped for an empowering and enjoyable experience. Often when I ask new families what they fear about birth I’m often met with similar statements. (Having a doula can sometimes help you work through these fears.) It’s going to hurt a lot… Something could happen to me… Something could happen to my baby… I’m going to have a C-section and I really don’t want one… With hypnobirthing you’re going to gain wisdom and confidence that’s going to carry you into parenthood. It isn’t a new way of birthing. It requires no leap of faith and it allows birth to happen in a closer alignment to the natural maternal and mammalian instincts. So that’s what it truly means when you decide you’re going to study hypnobirthing. There are many books located in our library and even more online. You can even find courses and hypnobirthing teachers. But truly my highest recommendation is if you aren’t ready to implement an actionable step into this birth…then hypnobirthing might not be right for you.
3 Things YOU Need to Discuss Before Baby’s Arrival
As a doula I have one of the greatest roles (in my very biased opinion) and that is educating. A lot of the times I see couples that haven’t discussed some very important things, and the only thing they find is important is the following: where is the baby sleeping? What shall we name him or her? Who do we text first that the baby is coming/is here. I mean those have great significance, but what about everything else? I feel blessed that when we sit down for a prenatal I know that there is so much that can be said or taught, an example why I offer six options of visits. We can always add more if needed. But I am getting off topic, here are three things that you NEED to be discussing before your baby has made their great debut into the world. 1. Help once you’ve arrived from the hospital If you wrote up a birth plan (and you should, here is my reasoning why) then you need to be writing up a postpartum plan. Maybe I’ll expand on this further in the future, but with all the prep work you should have a clear outline as to what help you’ll be needing. Will you be having someone take care of cooking? Or did you meal prep? Are you hiring someone to come (a postpartum doula, a night nurse, a nanny?) Or are you getting help by having a family member or friend come periodically or even stay for a while. How long will visitors be allowed to stay? – This is a big one because as much as we love mothers and mother-in-laws, sometimes they may need an allotted hour or two. 2. Breast or Bottle – or both? Now you might be like, I for sure know I want to breastfeed, and others might say I for sure know I want to bottle feed, but what about both? Are there other options? I bring this to mind as some people look for a wet nurse, or get human milk from local organizations (groups of moms donating milk) called Human Milk 4 Human Babies. This is something that you surely haven’t thought about. If you had kudos to you! What about breastfeeding… if it’s going poor who will you look to for assistance? Are you joining a support group? There are many more things then one or the other, I’d really look into all your options and conceive a plan. 3. Work – Going Back or Staying Home Obviously, finances play a big part in people’s decision when choosing such a big one as going to work or staying home. Sometimes we find that mothers will have full intention of going back to work but being with their child is something that completely side sweeps them as the perfect life. Financially start researching childcare in the area, and a rough estimate of how much money would come in and would go out. This information could save you time down the road when having to make this decision and then you might feel more prepared. (You can remember there is a price increase possibly in childcare options as well and limited space) Having a baby is a lot of work, and maybe this overwhelmed you on all the options you really should be thinking about, now you can tell yourself… wow I read this blog and I had already done these, or you gained insight on your next dinner date’s conversations. Although we know that not everything can be planned, it’s important to have conversations about these important things. Let alone the topics on circumcision, vaccines, schooling and more. Stay strong and keep the conversation flowing. It’s not a one night says it all kind of talk!
The Ultimate Doula’s Guide to Prenatal Yoga
Prenatal Yoga is the perfect way to strengthen your mind and body for birth. As a birth doula (and birthkeeper) I love hearing from clients that they practice Yoga. It’s one type of exercise that most doctors and midwives truly approve of. But why is it so popular? Which type of classes should I be taking? The questions are endless and today I am going to answer them. Is prenatal yoga safe for all stages of pregnancy? Yes, prenatal yoga is known for being safe for all stages of pregnancy. Of course some positions are told to be avoided over others, and some might not bring you the comfort you’re hoping for, but yes it is safe. What are the benefits of prenatal yoga for me and my baby? Lower your blood pressure Cuts down your risk of pre-term labor and other complications. Stabilize your moods Manage your weight And Improve your Labor and Delivery Are just a few of the benefits surrounding prenatal yoga and pregnancy. Are there any specific poses I should avoid during pregnancy? A few poses might be some of the following: Closed Twists Hot Yoga Boat Pose Strong Back Bends Lying Back Poses Abdominal Poses If you find a qualified prenatal yoga class in your area, they won’t even suggest these poses, but if you attend a regular yoga class make sure to avoid them. Can prenatal yoga help prepare for labor and childbirth? Yes, prenatal yoga can help you prepare for labor and childbirth. You’ll find that its breathing exercises are something you can carry over to when you’re getting contractions. Some of the poses might even bring you comfort when you’re going through labor. So it’s a yes all around from this doula! How often and for how long should I practice prenatal yoga? You may find that you can practice for less time during the first trimester with morning sickness, while in the second trimester upwards to an hour. You may want to practice doing yoga for 20-30 minutes every day during all trimesters to give you that sense of standard and balance amongst it. So there are some of the questions surrounding yoga with childbirth. In my perspective as a doula, I believe its a great exercise to be doing during your pregnancy for not only your body but your mind to greater help you with the key things of childbirth.
Why ALL parents should Create a Birth Plan – Especially for Hospital Birth
Having a birth plan is super important and something I recommend for all parents. Why is my opinion different from that of other doulas? I’ve seen firsthand what it’s like going into a birth without a birth plan. You only have thoughts of how you’d like your birth to go down. Then when it gets there so many things can go awry and you aren’t ready for it. We all know that it’s tricky to plan out a birthday party for a child (or adult) and have an extensive agenda of when to eat the cake, who will be there, and what their role is. So if it’s just that hard for a birthday party, why should you attempt for the unplannable. You won’t know the date the baby comes, or who will be there to attend to you (unless you have a doula and/or midwife), and you surely don’t know how long the whole birth is going to take. But putting a little effort into planning gives you the chance to focus on learning the things that go around. If you know that you don’t want an epidural unless you specifically ask for it by providing a code word, you did the research into why you DON’T WANT an epidural. If you say on your birth plan that you won’t be having an episiotomy then you have a reason for knowing it. Having it written down also gives your doula a chance to stand by your wishes, and do their best to support it against a medical staff who might have more issue (or not fully read it) So what is your take on this hot debate? Are you going to create a birth plan? Or just hope for the best?
5 Tips for Dads-to-be
Ever since I was a little girl, I hated being left out of things. I just don’t like the feeling and since I don’t like it the life lesson. “Do unto others as you wish done to you.” Stays with me every day and I try to do it. I like to include people as much as I can and never leave anyone it. It has me leaning toward saying yes, a lot more than no. But I am getting off-topic here. When it comes to having a baby, we hear a lot about moms and things of the sort. It’s about breastfeeding, birth, and so much more that it’s a lot about mom. Now yes, she has a lot of work to do. She is the one having a lot of things changing and going on in her life. But let’s not forget dad either. You are becoming a father; you are the one having your entire life changed as well. Tip 1: Show interestShowing interest in baby names or listening to stories that she read online even. Seem intrigued in the situation. Not only is it getting you more involved, but you are showing her your support. Which is a big key in all of this new stuff ahead. Tip 2: Feel the babyYou have no way of touching baby until s/he is here. But… you can ask permission from mom to touch the belly and see if you feel baby moving. Talk to baby. There are ways to connect more with baby and with mama. Tip 3: Date your Significant OtherWell in 9 months (maybe less depending on where you are in your pregnancy) a lot of things are going to be changing. You will have less time for each other. This is the time to make each other feel more important. Tip 4: Childbirth EducationI don’t care what everyone says but this is a big one. You can learn lots, but most classes are pretty fun. If you get one through a doula/childbirth educator, they try to make them as fun as possible for you. It can also be a part of your dates if you want to. Tip 5: Do something to make this memorable for you.Well, you are going to have a baby and that is pretty memorable in itself. Moms get baby showers. Make a night out with other dads. See if there is a dad-to-be support group in your area, and see if there is one online. Make this moment special for yourself as well. play youtube play youtube Brazzer xnxx xvideos porn hentai tiktok download 2002 World Series free Hentai I Need A Loan Todayminecraft Chunk Borders phim xxx Tracksuit Set Women play youtube play youtube Brazzer xnxx xvideos porn hentai tiktok download 2002 World Series free Hentai I Need A Loan Todayminecraft Chunk Borders phim xxx Tracksuit Set Women
Weight during Pregnancy
This post is going to get real. Everyone knows the same old story; I don’t have children *yet* and I am plus-size. Something I am working so hard on sharing my love for others. Body Positivity is a NECESSARY field. I am here to spread it. I do my best to be brutally honest when I post on social media. I am one of those girls who look at images and think of how they always look so good, even in mom pics. As you know I am trying to lose some weight. I had some health issues in previous years and as always doctors blame your weight. Even though I almost lost 50lbs it’s never enough the BMI has to be perfect and to put me in a standard. Just because we all fit into boxes, right? Well on Thursday morning I thought I would weigh myself. For the past 3 months it has been hovering between 309lbs and 305lbs every day it goes up and down. Now I do a workout with my sister every day for about 10-15 minutes. I totally understand I am not going out and being active the way I would have been. But that morning seeing 307 again I was so MAD! I have given up my evening snacks, I only have 1 sandwich, 1 granola bar for breakfast (or oatmeal) only one plate of dinner. I have been working so hard on limiting the food that isn’t healthy or important for me to eat. It’s really hard! I just lost it that morning, I got angry that it wasn’t coming off, so I was okay with eating a bit more. I told myself today I would cheat and tomorrow I would remember my goals. I then moved my thoughts to my moms out there who had trouble with their weight during pregnancy and postpartum. We are told throughout pregnancy how much weight you should gain during the period especially if you are heavier set and you weigh more. If your BMI is 30 or greater…. (for example, if I was expecting right now, I am like 48 in the BMI I think, the last time I checked) you should only gain 11-20 lbs. Well if the normal weight you should gain 25-35 lbs. Now I may be totally in my own world. But does it seem like when you eat something it’s like it sticks to you and you just can’t shake it? I can almost bet that if you have a higher BMI you went over the recommended or came pretty close to it. Then your HCP would proceed to belittle you for that happening. Weight gain in my position or weight problems has been my entire life’s journey. So, I can imagine if you are anything like me the problems with weight during pregnancy isn’t fun. Yes, its recommended to only gain that much weight. SO many people don’t, either less then or above the recommended. Which is okay, I know its hard and maybe you’re a perfectionist like I am said to be. But its okay, weight gain is a real thing and especially if you were careful with your weight before you probably have your concerns. If you want to whine about the number going up, I’m your gal as I can so relate and I ain’t even pregnant. https://www.acog.org/clinical/clinical-guidance/committee-opinion/articles/2013/01/weight-gain-during-pregnancy play youtube play youtube Brazzer xnxx xvideos porn hentai tiktok download 2002 World Series free Hentai I Need A Loan Todayminecraft Chunk Borders phim xxx Tracksuit Set Women play youtube play youtube Brazzer xnxx xvideos porn hentai tiktok download 2002 World Series free Hentai I Need A Loan Todayminecraft Chunk Borders phim xxx Tracksuit Set Women
Your Due Date is not an Expiration Date
Meaning of Expiration Date: the date after which a product (such as food or medicine) should not be sold because of an expected decline in quality or effectiveness Meaning of Due Date: the day when a woman is expected to give birth Due Dates hold a form of a magical power that a lot of us hang on too and fall for their magical and powerful ways. Here are some reasons why your due date is not accurate. Your Cycle is different than others We all know that our cycles are different. Do you know what your ovulation cycle is? If not, there is a way to track your temperature which you can take with the method. Most women who want to conceive can track their cycles in this way. Your Period length was not thought of You might tell me that you gave the date of your last period. But when they get this information without your ovulation cycle and the length of your typical cycle it is inaccurate. Periods can last a length of 25-37 days and ovulation isn’t always halfway through the cycle. So, your Estimated Due Date is not a sensible one. With these things in mind you need to think that there might be different dates that baby can come. Baby might come before your due date or after your due date. Some people find it helpful not to listen to due date. When people ask when baby is due say something as follows. “I’m due anywhere in March or April.” That way you are free to have baby whenever. It can give your mind less stress and makes you really come to terms that baby comes when baby wants to come. Anyone who knows me, knows my story. For my mother, I was due on Father’s Day so roughly June 21st etc. Right? Well my birthday is July 2nd. I was LATE in medical terms. My mother had a few inductions and they didn’t work until the fireworks of July 1st were bursting through the room and finally, I arrived in the early hours of July 2nd which I am told was a Sunday. So, your due date is not an expiration date. Since your baby can come at any time really. So there is a little food for thought. play youtube play youtube Brazzer xnxx xvideos porn hentai tiktok download 2002 World Series free Hentai I Need A Loan Todayminecraft Chunk Borders phim xxx Tracksuit Set Women play youtube play youtube Brazzer xnxx xvideos porn hentai tiktok download 2002 World Series free Hentai I Need A Loan Todayminecraft Chunk Borders phim xxx Tracksuit Set Women
