As you all know I am a plus-size woman who has never really fit into the system. I was homeschooled growing up, and I stand up for things that go against my beliefs.

Reproductive Health has always been a really important thing to me.

I’ve heard the birth stories of my grandmother who was an immigrant and didn’t know English. She was refused to have my grandfather in the room, but because she didn’t understand them she panicked and was tied down. Yes, this was the ‘60s but still… ewww.

My mother on the other hand was an older mom, she had so much that could have been taught but the hospital classes at that time didn’t teach enough. 

As women, we aren’t learning enough about our bodies, and what can happen with them. All of our research on women is outdated, and slowly as there become more doctors and scientists we want to know what is going on with us.

I’m not going to lie or be blunt here, so if you can’t handle it don’t keep reading.

I’ve seen and heard horrific things about women and what is happening in our communities (even more so with black and native women)

I make it as a joke, but sadly I have so much truth to it, during childbirth, or going to a hospital you almost need a bodyguard to protect you. 

As a doula we try to advocate and stand up for you as much as possible, but our goal is to teach YOU to advocate for yourself. If someone tells you to do something that you don’t want to do, a simple word NO will be enough for you. 

I could go on about this subject forever, but I really should summarize this for you.

Being an advocate for yourself or other women is needed. It can be as simple as standing up for yourself in your own household, then move on and do it somewhere else. As long as you keep working on things eventually it will add up.

Be the change we need in this world.

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To end this story off with a quote I will share this:

“I learned a long time ago the wisest thing I can do is be on my own side, be an advocate for myself and others like me.”– Maya Angelou.

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