I remember something my mother told me about my grandmother. Giving birth to my mother was the year 1963. My mother has told me the story a lot as it was the reason why my mother was the last child.
She was not very good at speaking English. My grandfather was not allowed in the room. She didn’t understand some of what was going on with these doctors and because of language barriers, she was tied down.
Different time, and a different atmosphere but without my grandfather, she was lost, and the birth was more difficult. Saying that timing is a big difference. Back in the olden days, men weren’t in
the room. (You see this a lot in Call the Midwives.) Nowadays men are socially acceptable in the room and NEEDED.
We hear about Oxytocin and with the help of the “love hormone,” it can really help smooth labour along. The relationship between you and your partner has it can be helpful at this time when your body needs it the most.
Links will be below for the following information but the amazing proof that partners need to be there for momma. Research states that if the father is absent from the birth that it can lead to different health problems with the momma and baby.
I have seen births where the partners have been extremely hands-on and it can be very crucial to the way the birth moves and goes on.
If anything, partners are very needed in the birth room. It is usual for there to be nerves before birth not just for the momma but also for the partner. Don’t be afraid as a team you will work much better than alone.
