Now everyone knows (because it’s not a trade secret) I have loved the birth world since I learned all about it at the time of my puberty. I have always had a bit more weight than “recommended” now for the longest time I believed that if you were overweight you weren’t going to be able to get pregnant (I was quite young remember this when reading this.)
I was worried that I would never get to bear a child like other celebrities who were of “average” weight.
This made me worried for what would come in my future and if all my dreams would be shattered of being a mother. I have been bullied for my weight and have always been insecure about how I look. For a long time (until the past year) I would only wear a size up and the baggier the better.
With pregnancy your body changes and if you are anything like me ^ … I was/am insecure so how would it work with pregnancy. You have more weight, you do get bigger. How can you stay positive if the world (social media, or people in the streets) is saying cruel things?
“Damn, you giving birth to teenagers?”
“Wow, bout to have a litter”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
“Respect your body. Have one child at first then another. Eat healthy so you have a nice healthy body”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
“Is that a food baby?”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
“Body positivity is unhealthy”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
“100 babies inside her? OMG”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
“You’re disgusting”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
“Infertility was God’s way of saying you shouldn’t have any children! Gross!”
I will link below the article/FB post where this woman explained the comments on her maternity photoshoot. Its disappointing how the world believes these comments might be helpful to a person. Because logically you have 100 babies?
Besides the point your body you should be proud of. Its hard because you hear and know what the outside world is thinking. But YOU aren’t the only one in those shoes, you aren’t the only one having a hard time struggling with what these maternity clothes will look like on, you aren’t the only one contemplating getting a maternity photoshoot done or not.
How can you maybe feel better? Join some like-minded FB groups or other groups. Meet up and get to know other mothers in your hindsight.
Always have a supportive shoulder to lean on.
Join Womb Buddies (FB) in March 2020 we are doing a whole meeting/talk on body positivity.
Reference: https://www.facebook.com/BabyCenter/photos/a.141884611297/10157103000886298/?type=3&theater
